Woman Crush Wednesday this week are the lovely sisters, Chloe x Halle. I remember the first time I saw Chloe x Halle on YouTube. It was 6 years ago, when they did their cover to Countdown by Beyonce. I thought, “WOW, these little girls are so dope!” Not realizing I was only 4 years older than the oldest sister, haha. I kind of, and forgive me, forgot about them until they dropped their cover to Yo Gotti, Down in the DM. They’ve always done covers of Beyonce’s songs, but it wasn’t until 2013, when they did a cover to her song Pretty Hurts that they caught her attention the her Parkwood Entertainment imprint. She took them under her wing and became their mentor. Dope right? I’ve always asked the question is it possible to look up to someone who is younger than you and the answer is YES! They are so dope and are making a name for themselves. They currently star as twin sisters, Jaz and Star on Grown-ish and they recently dropped their debut album! And if you haven’t listened to you it, wyd? My favorite songs are Everywhere, Down, Galaxy, Happy Without Me, Babybird, and the Kids Are Alright. Basically, the entire album lol.
- Self-love is the best love. Living for yourself and not worrying about what others think is such a healthy way of life. When you worry too much about what others think, you begin to believe the things that those people say and try to change who you are as a person. You also can’t begin to love someone else if you don’t love yourself.
- Listen to your intuition. When you get that feeling that something is wrong or right, GO WITH IT. I’ve had so many moments, where I did not go with my gut feeling and ended up getting my feelings hurt and other times where I’ve gone with my gut feelings and have been right and avoided a lot of drama.
- Take risks. This is one thing I am a big firm believer in is taking risk. I mean, a plan was presented to me to move to LA and I moved in less than a month. I feel like sometimes taking risks are important because you never want to have that regret later on in life. I never want to get older and say, “Man, I regret not moving to LA when I had the chance.” You know?
- TRAVEL. And travel as often as you can. I’ve taking so many trips during college that I probably shouldn’t have taken because my funds were low, but I did anyway because well, you only get to college once and two you’re only young once, so why not be irresponsible. Now, I just want to travel the world, even if it is by myself. I’ve only traveled once so far this year, but have two trips planned for the summer, a possible trip in May, I’m looking into planning another trip for September and hopefully one for October or November, maybe both.
- Embrace your weirdness. A quote I recently saw that spoke to me, “It’s better to appear strange to others than as a stranger to yourself.” If you’re weird, so fucking what? I’m weird. I’m awkward. I like different things than other people and that’s truly ofuckingkay.
- Some people will bring out the worst in you. Some the best. And others, the most. When you figure this out, you have to eliminate those people who do bring out the worst in you and you have to cherish those who bring out the best. I am an introvert at heart and I always choose to hang around people who are extroverted because I know they’ll bring out my deep inner extrovertness.
- Live a little. If you’re trying to lose that weight, EAT THAT MOTHERFUCKING HAMBURGER when you get a chance. If a guy asks you out on a date, GO ON THAT DATE SIS. If a friend ask you to go skydiving, GO SK..well sis, maybe you should just live life on edge by doing inside skydiving. If you want to move to another city, GO TO THAT CITY.
- You don’t owe anyone an explanation. This took me a minute to learn, but nonetheless I learned it. If I don’t want to go somewhere or do something, a simple no is all that person needs. I don’t have to explain why I don’t want too. Take this no and be grateful I even gave you that because I could’ve just ignored your request.
- Spend time with your parents. I don’t get to see my parents often and I really haven’t in the past 6 years, being 4 hours way during college and living in Los Angeles and now Nashville, I don’t see them often, but I love my parents so much and spending time with them is very important to me. I guess that’s why I stay up under them whenever I go home. LMAO, WHERE WE GOING MOM? WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD?
- Don’t settle. This is also an important thing I learned. If you don’t like something, please don’t settle for it. Know your worth, Queen and go after what you deserve, especially in a significant other.
- Don’t plan your life out according to a time table. This was a big mistake a made. I always had a timeline. Graduate college at 22 (Only thing I’ve done according to my timeline, LOL), get myself together financially and build with my current boyfriend (LOL!), get engaged and married by 25, first kid by 28 and no kids no later than 30. Look at me? 25 with not a significant other in sight or close to being in sight. LMAO, live life and don’t go out looking for something. If it finds you, it’ll find you.
- Don’t stress over what can’t be controlled. Will it matter in 5 minutes? Will it matter in 5 years? No, move on boo. When I lived in LA, I stressed my entire time and didn’t get to fully enjoy the city. Everything eventually worked out, especially with a good pay job, which was my main stress factor, and it was all in God’s timing.
- Don’t compare your life to the lives of others. I had to learn this the hard way. Always on Instagram, strolling and seeing friends getting those jobs right after college or on facebook seeing people happily in love, getting married and with kids. It’s just not healthy and in a way it stumps your growth. You’re too worried about how others are living and how they did it as opposed to focusing on yourself and seeing how and what you can do to get to where they are.
- BE GRATEFUL. Always. There are people out who haven’t made it to see 25. There are people out there who haven’t accomplished as much as I have at 25. There are a lot of people who can’t do half the things I can do at 25. I’m not where I want to be, but I am forever grateful for where I am.
- Think for myself. WOW, this was definitely a big one. I think growing up, my mom would always do the talking for me. I remember we lived in WV and we were in the car with a neighbor and she asked me a question, however my mom immediately answered the question before I could even process the question and formulate an answer and I remember the neighbor saying, “I asked Jasmine the question.” But I’ve been on my own for a while now, so thinking for myself has been something I’ve had to do, although I do still call me mom for advice, I still have to formulate my own thoughts and opinions on things to make the best decision for myself.
- Who I was at 20, 22 and even at 24 doesn’t define who I will be at 25. Man, I’ve done some crazy shit that I KNEW for a fact was wrong, but I still did them because I was being petty or because I just felt like, however those things do NOT and will NOT define the person I’ve become.
- Love what you do for a living. Okay, so I’ve learned while being in Corporate America that you might hate your job, but I’ve also learned that, that job could be setting you up with the experience for your next job. My first job in Corporate was an Admissions Representative (code for Sales) at a technical school. However, that job title and some of my responsibilities opened doors for me in HR.
- SAVE MONEY. OMG, y’all please, PLEASE save money. That money you have in your savings can help you out in times of emergencies, like for instance when your checking account goes into the negatives or gets as low as .47, but at least you’ll have that money in your savings to help you out a little until that next paycheck comes in. Or having a savings period is very helpful for later on in life when you want to do something major like buy a house.
- Make connections. This is very important, regardless of what industry you’re in. You never know whose watching you or who can help you get to the next step that yo’re trying to get too.
- Follow your dreams. One of my biggest fears is that I’m not living the life God has planned for me to live. I currently work in Corporate America, but I’m not sure if that’s the route I’m supposed to be going. I went to school for fashion and the longer I’m in Corporate America, the more I think if I should go with my first career choice
- It’s not always about look. When it comes to a significant other or hell if yourself, it’s not about looks. Looks won’t get you that job, that boyfriend, that healthy life, that.. whatever you’re looking for it’s more than looks. Do you have a personality? Do you have the skill set? What can you offer and put on the table?
- Learn something new everyday. When you’re not learning, I feel like you’re being complacent with your current knowledge. There’s nothing wrong with being a continuous learner and picking up a new skill or learning about something new everyday.
- Believe in yourself. Believe in yourself girl or no one else will, but no seriously if you’re constantly doubting yourself, there’s only so much that people around you can try to believe in you before they start doubting you too.
- BE KIND. No matter what, be kind. Be kind to that stranger, be kind to that CEO and that janitor, be kind to your mom, be kind to your dad, be kind to your siblings, your friends, your family, everyone! It’s better to be kind than to be the Grinch.
- The best is yet to come. If you don’t feel like you’re where you are or need to be, remember the best is yet to come. Keep working and striving, it’ll come soon darling.
This week’s Woman Crush Wednesday is Tracee Ellis Ross. However, Tracee isn’t just a crush for me, she’s an inspiration. Eclectic, comfortable, and bold are three words she used to describe herself in the 72 Questions with Vogue video and while Tracee is most definitely all of those things, I see a woman who is intelligent, beautiful, talented and inspiring…someone I aspire to be like someday. She’s an actress, comedian, rapper, fashionista and the big sister I never knew I needed. Recently, she gave a powerful speech at the Glamour’s 2017 Woman of the Year Summit. In her speech, she says the following,
“When we put ourselves first by doing things like saying no, speaking up, sleeping with who we want, eating what our bodies intuitively tells us to eat, wearing training bras instead of push up bras, posting a picture without using facetune..we are condemned for thinking for ourselves and being ourselves, for owning our experiences, our bodies and our lives. That kind of stuff is seen as threatening and scary and it’s certainly not what the patriarchy had in mind. Join me for a moment and imagine: What would it be like for women to completely own our own power, to have agency over our own glory and our sexuality, not in order to create a product or to sell it, or to feel worthy of love, or use it as a tool for safety, but instead as a WAY OF BEING? Imagine that..truly owning out own power, agency, and sexuality.”
Ross, a 45 year old woman without a husband or children, is everything I look up too. Only recently have I become comfortable with not getting married or having children. It’s no longer a fear of mine that I may not have a husband or have kids to love me unconditionally, but that’s okay because like Ross who mentions in her speech, “I’ve become a woman that I am very proud to be,” I someday want to become a woman that I am very proud to be.
Who is your style icon? The interviewer from the 72 Questions with Vogue asks Tracee. “Me in 17 years, I’m very hopeful,” she replies and quite honestly, Tracee is my style icon now. I mean, she slays so effortless in every outfit that her stylist, Karla Welch, Hollywood’s hottest stylist who literally was a wine steward right before, read her story here.
I mean do you guys see this woman? Eff-fort-less slay. I really want to get my hands on her and become her wardrobe stylist some day. That’s honestly one of my lifetime goals. Later in the post, I’ve included a look book of things I feel are her style and would love to see her in. She is openly independent, always sends positive vibes and portrays a strong Black woman in her TV roles. She is unapologetically herself and I love her for it.
She also has a website, traceeellisross.com that you should definitely check out if you haven’t already. She talks hair, beauty, health, style, food and overall highlights of Tracee.
Here is the lookbook of styles I’ve come up with for Tracee if I were to become her stylist some magical way:
Anaya at All Star NBA Weekend
Anaya at New York Fashion Week 2K18
Anaya in LA for NAACP weekend
This weeks Woman Crush Wednesday is none other than Anaya Roderick. I started following when Vine was hawt and pawpin. I don’t remember exactly how I came across her Vines, but I do remember when I first saw her I thought she was so gorgeous and so REAL about the things she talked about. A lot of her Vines consisted of her lip-singing, actually singing (and which she can sang), showing off her outfits or just talking about real shit which all made me a follower of hers. I also always loved her outfits (I remember screenshooting all of them for inspiration). Anaya has come a long way with her brand. She was only selling clothes when I started following her and now in addition to clothes, she sells accessories, lashes and hair!
Anaya is also my WCW and someone that I admire because she’s a wardrobe stylist. A wardrobe stylist is a HIGH interest of mine and a career path I am looking forward to starting. I’ve been following her for a while to see how she made in the business and I need sis to come up with a tutorial workbook or something, I’d absolutely buy it on how she got her business started and kept it thriving so many years later.
Y’all can follow her social medias:
YouTube: Anaya Roderick
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