Long Distance Relationships

Being in a long distance relationship definitely has its cons, but it also has its pros.  When I was nineteen, I engaged in a long distance relationship.  The guy was attending the same undergrad as myself, but after our freshmen year, he decided to move back home and transfer to a school nearby putting us five hours apart.  I made it my mission that we heard each others voice everyday, whether by phone or FaceTime (mainly the latter) and that we would see each other at least once a month.  Needless to say, we only lasted “officially” 3 months.  He claimed that the distance was strenuous on our relationship, but in actuality he was cheating and wanted to end it to be with a girl that was living in his hometown, which is one of those cons of the long distance relationships.  Immediately after, I told myself that I would never get involved in another long distance relationship, but that was then.  Today I would encourage a long distance relationship if the opportunity presented itself.

The only pressing thing about a long distance relationship is starting off in one.  It’s different when you lived in the same city as them and then one or the other gets a job offer in another city and has to move, but you can’t move with them just yet.  But here lately, most guys I have been attracted too and have attracted are hours away from me.  I haven’t been reluctant to doing a long distance relationship because distance doesn’t bother or scare me.  I’m older now and have a job where I make decent amount of money, so flying and/or driving to see them isn’t an issue just as long as it’s reciprocated and I’m not the only one doing all the driving.  The only thing that scares me about doing a long distance relationship is knowing whether or not the person is going to actually remain faithful to me and only me, especially in those relationships that start off long distance.

Pros of Being in a Long Distance Relationship:

  • It’ll actually force you and your significant other to have communication in your relationship
  • That feeling you get when you finally get to see your man/girl after not seeing them for a while
  • Gives you the opportunity to focus on other things other than your significant other being around you 24/7
  • Hold on to your freedom, especially if you don’t like a clingy significant other

Cons of Being in a Long Distance Relationship:

  • What you don’t know can hurt you, oh you know, they could be out here cheating on you while you have no clue
  • Whenever you want someone there just to hold you, they’re a couple of hundreds of miles away
  • You’re tied down by technology because let’s face it, it’s the only way you two can communicate
  • You may grow apart

The fact of the matter is, you’ll never know if a long distance relationship with work unless you try it out.  Just make sure you lay some ground rules, put in effort to visit each other as often as you can, and try not to grow apart from each other

xoxo

-Jas ❤