Tag Archives: jasmine

I’m Okay with Not Getting Married

IMG_4659

Back in February, I went home for my parents 50th birthday celebration.  While we were at the venue setting up, my father and I were talking about his eating habits and health.  He went on a rant about how he’s trying to overall live a healthier life as he wants to see his grandkids grow up and see me get married. It didn’t dawn on me until a couple of days later that my father is looking forward to seeing me get married, however I have come to the realization that I may not want to get married and I am okay with that.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against getting married and if I fall in love with a man who wants to eventually marry me, I’m open to it, but what I am saying is that, if it doesn’t happen, I won’t stress out about it, I won’t complain and be one of those women who’s always nagging about never getting married, but instead I’ll continue to live a long healthy life.  I think too often women get caught up in this life of, I’m supposed to go to college, graduate, get a job, find a man, get married and have kids and I don’t believe that.  I believe that I am supposed to live and to live my best fucking life and whatever I encounter on that journey, whether it’s a bomb ass job, a man or a child then good.

My parents got married at 22.  Can you guys believe it? Twenty-2.  At 22, I had just gotten out of one situationship and was heading into another situationship.  At 22, I was stressing because I had just found out I was graduating an entire semester earlier than planned.  At 22, I was trying what the fuck I was about to do with my life after May 14th at 9:30am and Gary Ransdell, WKU previous President called my name to receive my paper diploma.  At 22, I was trying to figure out what internship was I going to get after I did walk because I had one more class left before I could officially be a college graduate.  At 22, I was not thinking about a fucking marriage.  My parents had me at 25.  I recently turned 25 last month and at 25, I can’t financially support myself, so I definitely couldn’t financially support another life.  At 25, I’m still lost as fuck as to what I want to do in life.  At 25, I’m slightly lost, stressed and depressed.

I haven’t been in a relationship that held a quote, unquote title of boyfriend and girlfriend since 2012.  I haven’t been in a successful yet unnecessarily long situationship since 2014.  It’s 2018.  I haven’t been in love or felt wanted by a man in four years and I’ve learned a lot about myself.  To include the fact that I am okay with not getting married.  I’m also okay with not having kids.  However, if and when I meet a man that I’m in love with and we decide to get married, than baby I’m all for it! And if he wants to have kids, of course I am going to give that man some kids.  But I won’t cry or be hurt if I don’t either or.  When I was younger, I had a plan of what my life was “supposed” to look like.  Married by 23, first kid by 25 and a second by 28.  So much for that plan. I think my focus right now is mainly on getting myself together financially, physically, mentally and most importantly, spiritually.  Once I get all of that in order, thinking about marriage and kids will come into play.

xoxo

Jas ❤

 

How to Make Use of Your Time Commuting to and from Work

22-Dwayne-Johnson-Singing-in-the-Car

You’re sitting in your car, driving to and from work, and your life is passing you by.  You hate the commute, but you have to do it time and time again, “Well maybe I’ll get a job closer to home or a work from home job.” no, learn how to make use of your time commuting to and from work.

A couple of months ago, I lived in Owensboro, KY and commuted an hour or so to Bowling Green, KY three out of five days a week and I had to figure out what to do in that time frame.

Listen to a podcast. Honestly, before this I had never listened to Podcast before in my life.  I found some dope ones, The Read and The Friend Zone.  I listened to a couple of others, but these were the two that kept me sane and interested, alive and alert on my commute.  Now that I live in Nashville and my commute is about 30 to 40 minutes to work, I still listen to these podcasts.

Catch up with a loved one. Call a friend or a family member that you haven’t talked to in a while and see what they’re up too!

Discover new music. Put on a random playlist from Spotify or Apple Music that you’ve never listened to or that may have artists that you’d usually never listen too! You may discover some gems!

Find a different route to work.  I know we like to stick to the usual and not try anything new, especially when it comes to driving! When I first moved to Nashville and I was still finding my way to my job from my house, my GPS took me three different routes, three different days in a row to work.  It was refreshing because I got a different scene and depending on the day, one route was faster than the other.

Brainstorm.  Sit in silence in the car and think about all the things you need to do or want to do.  This could possibly be one of the best times to do something like this! You have no distraction, besides the other cars but there is minimum noise and no one to talk to you and interrupt your thoughts.

What are some things that you do to make use of your time commuting to and from work?

xoxo

Jas ❤

Lip Color of the Week

This week’s lip color is NYX Liquid Suede Disruptive.  I was SO nervous to try this lip color because it was different and I didn’t think it would look right on me, however once I put it on, I absolutely loved this color on me! It looked amazing and can’t wait to wear it often!

How to Keep Motivation in the Gym

Let me guess, at the beginning of the year or at the end of 2017, you made a New Year’s Resolution to go to the gym more and on January 2nd you marched into your gym of choice and signed up for a membership.  The true test is, 3 months later, are you still in the gym? Or is that gym taking that monthly payment of your account for no reason or you canceled your membership on February 1st once you realized you in fact were not about that gym life?

Normally, this is the part where I’d say me too, right? Well no, not me too.  I’m actually an avid gym workouter (haha, I believe I just made up a word, but who’s checking for me?)  In January I worked out 26/31 days.  In February, I was a little burnt out from working out so much in January, so the first couple of days in February, I didn’t work out, however I did workout 23/28 days.  In March, I worked out 28/31 days and so far this month of April, I’ve worked out everyday.  Below are ways that I’ve stayed motivated to continue working out and to workout as hard as I do:

Document your progress.  I took pictures one a month so that I could see my progress.  When you see the progress you’ve made through pictures, it is a motivation to keep going and keep pushing.  You see that the working out that you’ve done, has been working and you want to keep going, so you do.  You don’t have to take a picture every month, but taking a picture every couple of months and seeing the transformation is also encouraging!

Find a Gym that Fits You.  I got to Planet Fitness and sometimes I’ll go to the gym at my apartment complex.  Sometimes, Planet Fitness is too crowded and my anxiety doesn’t allow me to be around a plethora of people and sometimes my gym at my apartment complex can be filled with people and I need to go to Planet Fitness.  I know I’ll workout harder if I actually go to Planet Fitness.  However, outside of Planet Fitness or maybe if you don’t have a home gym or your apartment complex doesn’t have a gym, there are a lot more gyms to choose from.  You have to decide what is best for you, is the price right? Do they have the machines you’re looking for? Are they 24/7, 24/5, etc.? Make sure you do research and visit different gyms to see what is right for you.  Your surroundings will definitely play a big part in how often you’ll go to the gym.

Pick a schedule.  Pick a schedule and stick too it!!! I go to the gym after work 5 days a week.  I get off at 3:30pm and I usually get to the gym around 4:15pm.  That is my time and I stick to it.  A couple of times, I’ve gone home to take a nap and then ‘try’ to go to the gym.  Sometimes I go and sometimes I don’t.  However, when I pick and stick to my schedule, I know that I’ll continuously go! Some people are morning people or have more time in the morning before work to go to the gym, if that works for you, stick to it!!

Find a eating plan.  MEAL PREP! MEAL PREP! MEAL PREP! And I say this, because it is so easy to get off track or not feel like coming home to cook so you end up stopping by a fast food restaurant.  However if you meal prep, you won’t be tempted to stop somewhere because you know you have that meal prepped at the house.  I typically meal prep breakfast and lunch and I’ll cook dinner and have the leftovers for the next couple of days.  This was definitely hard, especially since I loved myself a 4 for 4 at Wendy’s!! But I’ve winged myself off of it and have not had fast food since February!

Get you a gym playlist.  Find songs that gives you the motivation to workout and create a playlist.  Spotify is a really good app for creating playlist.  I have my very own gym playlist that you can listen to here and sometimes I’ll find playlist that others have created for the gym on there! But a good playlist will always keep you motivated and going in the gym.

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT SLOW PROGRESS IS BETTER THAN NO PROGRESS.  Always remember that everyone’s body is different.  Some people lose weight faster than others, etc.  It’s also all about trial and error.  Trying out a meal plan routine and/or workout routine may not work the first time, but a different plan may just work for you.  Keep trying and keep pushing.

What keeps you motivated in going to the gym?

xoxo

Jas ❤

Lip Color of the Week

This week’s lippie of the week is by none other than NYX Wicked Lippie Trickery Supercherie.  I love this color because it’s a metallic greenish color and I honestly felt so fierce using this lip color.

Lip Color of the Week

As you all may or may not know, I love wearing different shades of lippies and I have over 30 different colors from all different brands! NYX recently had an in-app BOGO sale and I went a little overboard with my purchase.  The first color I tried was NYX Liquid Suede Industrial Paradise.  Looking at the tube, I thought it was going to be a lavender color, but once I began to put it on, I realized it was actually kind of like a baby blue color and I absolutely LOVED IT!