It’s Okay to Apologize
In episode 13, ‘You Decide’ of Grown-ish, Zoey finds out about Aaron and Ana’s relationship, Nomi and her secret relationship with a professor as well as the fact that Luca knew about Aaron and Ana all along and says and does some pretty hurtful things to everyone and is pretty much being stubborn about each of the situations
Zoey doesn’t know how to apologize but after a conversation with baby bro, Junior, who lets her know that her apologies are half-assed and fake and she basically gains some insights.
After this discussion she goes on an apology tour with everyone starting with Ana and even buying more milk after she drank it all when Ana needed some for her cereal, she gave Luca a sincere apology and she apologized to Nomi for judging her.
I think we all need to realize when we are in the wrong or mad about things that won’t even matter 5 years from now. We also need to realize when we hurt people and apologize for those hurtful things that we say and do. It’ll make everyone’s life a little bit easier.
Having A Job That May Not Be in Our Desired Field Can Still Be Useful
Zoey’s dad cut her off financially and took her car away due to her getting caught cheating on a chemistry test leaving her having to fend for herself especially when her funds started to dwindle.
Her friends encourage her to find a job, but she struggles to find something that aligns with her career goals, however she ends up with a job at the bookstore with Dougie who tells her the benefits and the bigger picture of working at the campus bookstore. He mentions that they offer community, stability and access to campus life that few other students have. He also mentions that he is a business major and wants to learn how to run a business and though he is only a bookstore clerk, he is still learning how to run and operate a business.
Dougie’s message made me realize that though I may not be where I want to be in my career, at least it’s a stepping stone to where I want to be. Soaking up and taking in everyone I possibly can in my current position will help me out in the long run when I finally get to where I want to be in my career.
Self-Care is Important
Zoey takes her girls to her home while her family is away, well everyone except for Junior. She has the self-care trip all planned out: no phones, no social media, no alcohol, no illegal substances and no junk food, oh and Adult Coloring Books.
However, after only six hours into her self-care trip, Nomi tells Zoey she made a good effort, but she can’t just carve out a few days and think that everything is magically going to get better because life doesn’t work that way. Jazz jumps in, “It’s like how you are with your curls; it just doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process.” Zoey realizes everyone is right, and all’s well that ends well.
Zoey eventually realizes that self-care doesn’t need the clean eating and coloring books, but good food, quality time and laughs with her girls.
As a college students or even professional, having a self-care weekend or day is so important to our mental health. I also agree that it does not need to be fully planned out because that is how you get stressed out. Imagine you planned out this entire self-care day/weekend and something goes wrong? Now you’re all out of wack and your self-care attempt has failed.
Body Count Doesn’t Matter & Lurking Gets You Nothing but Hurt Feelings
Zoey sees a painting Luca presents at the Cal-U art festival, and the half-naked chick in the painting is so NOT Zoey! It’s Luca’s ex, Juliet. This actually makes Zoey a little bum and puts her in an awkward situation with Luca. After a talk with her friends, they give her the terrible advice of doing a “deep dive” on Lucas Instagram to find her. She does a “deep dive” on Luca’s IG account and finds out he and Juliet are still friends on IG an still follow each other.
Luca asks Zoey if she is really prepared to hear how many girls he has been with before her? Zoey says, “Yes, she needs to know.” Luca tells her, and they block it out for the audience but I’m guessing it’s in hundreds and that is not an exaggeration. Zoey looks like she is gonna be sick, as she tells him, she has only been with two people. Now she knows more than she ever wanted to know about his past, and she regrets that.
At the end of the day, everyone has a pass before they met you, whether you like it or not. You can’t and shouldn’t judge someone based off of their body count and if you do, please grow up immediately. Lurking on Instagram also gets you nothing but hurt feelings, I know, I’ve done it a time or two or hundred…and every time I always found what I was looking for. But honestly, if you want some answers on someone, the best thing to do is be upfront with that person and ask them whatever it is that you want to know.