Have you ever been sitting around and thinking about your life? How you’re unhappy with where you are in life or how much you need a change? As many of you know or may not know, I had this same thought back in 2016. I had gotten my first full-time job 8 months after graduating from college in January of 2016. It was as an admissions representative at a for-profit school. I thought I wanted to be in Higher Education and I just knew that this would be perfect to get my foot through the door. However, shortly after, I realized that the job was more like a Sales Representative job and I hated it SOOOO much. When you’re in Higher Education, your main priority are the students you work with and making sure they are having the best possible college experience inside and outside the classroom, but as for-profit schools care more about money and numbers than the actual students and their education. Anyway, six months later, my boss called me into his office to basically fire me. The company was doing some “reorganization” and wanted to go from three admission representatives to two and because I was the last one that they hired, they decided to fire me. Hmph. I was depressed, lost and terrified though. WTF was next? What was I going to do now? A week after I had gotten fired, my cousin called me and asked me to move to Los Angeles and without even thinking, I said, “Yes.” At the time that I said it, I didn’t know if I were serious or not, but a month later, I found myself being serious as I had signed my lease and was in the car with my mom traveling over 1,000 miles away from what I had called home all my life. There are a million things I would’ve done differently before I left and would’ve done after I got there and I want to share with you all.
Things I would do before:
- Have a job already in hand before you move. I literally moved to Los Angels on faith. I had no job in hand waiting for me once I got there. I think that is literally one of the most irresponsible things you could ever do when moving to a big city like Los Angeles, however at the same time I get it. I was ready for a change and wanted to move regardless of a job or not.
- If you don’t already have a job in hand, at least have some interviews lined up. I will say that I had maybe one or two interviews lined up, but that isn’t enough. You need to have probably four or five interviews. You may get two or three job offers of the five and that will give you a chance to weigh your pros and cons of the different job offers you have.
- Have plenty of money saved up. This was honestly my saving grace when I moved. I had sufficient amount of money in my checkings and savings when I first moved out there. Had I not, I would’ve been on my way back home before the year was over with.
- Have a back-up plan. I think this is also important. If things don’t work out the way you want within the first couple of months, have a plan. What are you going to do? Are you going to call your parents or friends and have them come pick you up and carry you back to your hometown or are you going to suck shit up and do what you have to do get this money? Regardless of what you decide, have a back-up plan just in case shit goes south.
Things I would do after:
- Make friends and connections. The more people you know, the more connections you can make, the more likely you will be able to get a job. Luckily for me, I worked in the career services office in undergrad, so I knew how to finesse my resume and talk the talk in interviews to get a job, but if you don’t, getting to know people and being genuine when you are getting to know these people can lead you to some great places.
- Explore the city. Whatever city you move to, whether it’s Los Angeles or somewhere in North Dakota, go out experience what the city has to offer. Don’t be afraid to do things because you don’t have anyone to do with! This is also a great way to meet people. In Los Angeles, I would most definitely do a lot of things by myself, especially going to TV Shows. I remember I went to the James Corden show (photo below) and I met some beautiful women from Australia. It was amazing!
3. Don’t give up. I left LA, not because it was expensive, but because my living situation got weird. I didn’t want to live with a married couple and their newborn child, I didn’t want to live by myself and the person who was going to be my roommate, didn’t know she was officially moving to LA until after I had already quit my job. Looking back however though, I would’ve stayed and found a temporary place to stay until I got on my feet to find a place by myself or until I found a roommate.
All-in-all moving can be terrifying and most definitely humble but I feel like if you think moving to a new city or a new state will give you that breathe of fresh air you need, by all means do it, but do it wisely!