A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a blog post about ghosting here. But today, I want to talk about ghosting a friend. Being ghosted as a friend can be just as hurtful, if not more, than being ghosted romantically. How not all friendships are meant to last forever and many people cut off or ghost friends for several different reasons. For example, you let a friend stay with you and they took advantage of that, they cheated with your partner, they bashed you to other people, the friendship is toxic, they stole something of value to you, you can’t trust them, etc. Whatever the reason may be, you had one for ghosting them.
I recently ghosted a “best” friend and I use the term loosely, as I no longer considered her my best friend when I stopped being friends with her. We weren’t that close anymore, we were two different people, we were in two different places in life and that’s why I felt like our friendship had run its course. I felt like I outgrew her. I had moved on, accomplished all of these things, meanwhile she was stuck. No matter how much she talked about growing as a person, she never made any moves to move towards progression. It was almost as if she would take a step forward and twenty steps backwards.
I’ll admit, it would have been more “ethical” of me to let her know upfront what was up, but I just did not feel like I owed her any explanation. I was going through my own things and really felt the need to have positive energy and people around me as I would be more empowered and inspired to keep going after my goals.
Some friends may not be the same type of friend I need or want based on where I am in my life. We grow, we change and we evolve. If you are still stuck in the past, you’re not growing, changing or evolving then our friendship needs to be released.
The older you get, the more your mindset and interest change and some people just can’t handle that change. You can influence people to change, but we can’t force them to change.