You’re always in a relationship. This is a big one for me. I’ve dated someone who was literally ALWAYS in a relationship. Immediately before he and I started dating, he was in a relationship, immediately after me he started dating someone and the same after her. I think at that point, you SHOULD be single. You need time to yourself, to figure out who you are and what it is that you will and will not tolerate in your next relationship. Figure out what you’re looking for in a mate and why your previous relationships were not working.
You’re still not over your ex. This is very freaking obvious. Please do not bring someone into the picture when you are still in love with your ex. A lot of people think the answer to getting over someone is by talking to someone. Sometimes you need to be by yourself to get over your ex. Otherwise you’re just playing with someones mental and heart.
Your current lifestyle doesn’t allow you to be in a relationship. Your current lifestyle may consist of a job that you’re traveling all of the time for or you may work two or three jobs to try to stack up and it doesn’t give you time to hang out with anyone.
Relationship commitments scare you. Out of everything on this list, this is the most relate-able one to me. It is the scariest thing to know that someone could have your heart and literally do anything with it. It is the scariest thing to me committed to someone, and just one person only. Committing to someone takes time, dedication, communication, etc. A lot of things I’m not sure that I’m ready to give.
You don’t know what you want. If you don’t know what you want in a significant other, you’re bound to make bad decisions in a partner, consistently. You’re bound to continuously pick the wrong guy or girl. If you don’t know what you want, it’s best to stay single until you do figure it out, so that you are not wasting your time or anyone else’s.
You’re trying to fill a void. Maybe someone close to you died. Maybe you’re just bored. Whatever that void is it that you’re trying to fill, getting into a relationship to try to fill it, is all bad. Once you’re out of that funk, once you’ve finally grieved about that death or you’re no longer bored, you realize, maybe, just maybe I shouldn’t be with this person.
You have a better time when you’re single. If you’re anything like me, being single is actually pretty fun. I don’t have to change my routine that I’ve gotten accustomed to, which is doing what I want, when I want without having to explain myself to someone or tell someone what I’m doing. I actually do not mind being the third wheel or the fifth wheel because at the end of the day, I will go off and make friends with others.