Self-love is the best love. Living for yourself and not worrying about what others think is such a healthy way of life. When you worry too much about what others think, you begin to believe the things that those people say and try to change who you are as a person. You also can’t begin to love someone else if you don’t love yourself.
Listen to your intuition. When you get that feeling that something is wrong or right, GO WITH IT. I’ve had so many moments, where I did not go with my gut feeling and ended up getting my feelings hurt and other times where I’ve gone with my gut feelings and have been right and avoided a lot of drama.
Take risks. This is one thing I am a big firm believer in is taking risk. I mean, a plan was presented to me to move to LA and I moved in less than a month. I feel like sometimes taking risks are important because you never want to have that regret later on in life. I never want to get older and say, “Man, I regret not moving to LA when I had the chance.” You know?
TRAVEL. And travel as often as you can. I’ve taking so many trips during college that I probably shouldn’t have taken because my funds were low, but I did anyway because well, you only get to college once and two you’re only young once, so why not be irresponsible. Now, I just want to travel the world, even if it is by myself. I’ve only traveled once so far this year, but have two trips planned for the summer, a possible trip in May, I’m looking into planning another trip for September and hopefully one for October or November, maybe both.
Embrace your weirdness. A quote I recently saw that spoke to me, “It’s better to appear strange to others than as a stranger to yourself.” If you’re weird, so fucking what? I’m weird. I’m awkward. I like different things than other people and that’s truly ofuckingkay.
Some people will bring out the worst in you. Some the best. And others, the most. When you figure this out, you have to eliminate those people who do bring out the worst in you and you have to cherish those who bring out the best. I am an introvert at heart and I always choose to hang around people who are extroverted because I know they’ll bring out my deep inner extrovertness.
Live a little. If you’re trying to lose that weight, EAT THAT MOTHERFUCKING HAMBURGER when you get a chance. If a guy asks you out on a date, GO ON THAT DATE SIS. If a friend ask you to go skydiving, GO SK..well sis, maybe you should just live life on edge by doing inside skydiving. If you want to move to another city, GO TO THAT CITY.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. This took me a minute to learn, but nonetheless I learned it. If I don’t want to go somewhere or do something, a simple no is all that person needs. I don’t have to explain why I don’t want too. Take this no and be grateful I even gave you that because I could’ve just ignored your request.
Spend time with your parents. I don’t get to see my parents often and I really haven’t in the past 6 years, being 4 hours way during college and living in Los Angeles and now Nashville, I don’t see them often, but I love my parents so much and spending time with them is very important to me. I guess that’s why I stay up under them whenever I go home. LMAO, WHERE WE GOING MOM? WHAT ARE YOU DOING DAD?
Don’t settle. This is also an important thing I learned. If you don’t like something, please don’t settle for it. Know your worth, Queen and go after what you deserve, especially in a significant other.
Don’t plan your life out according to a time table. This was a big mistake a made. I always had a timeline. Graduate college at 22 (Only thing I’ve done according to my timeline, LOL), get myself together financially and build with my current boyfriend (LOL!), get engaged and married by 25, first kid by 28 and no kids no later than 30. Look at me? 25 with not a significant other in sight or close to being in sight. LMAO, live life and don’t go out looking for something. If it finds you, it’ll find you.
Don’t stress over what can’t be controlled. Will it matter in 5 minutes? Will it matter in 5 years? No, move on boo. When I lived in LA, I stressed my entire time and didn’t get to fully enjoy the city. Everything eventually worked out, especially with a good pay job, which was my main stress factor, and it was all in God’s timing.
Don’t compare your life to the lives of others. I had to learn this the hard way. Always on Instagram, strolling and seeing friends getting those jobs right after college or on facebook seeing people happily in love, getting married and with kids. It’s just not healthy and in a way it stumps your growth. You’re too worried about how others are living and how they did it as opposed to focusing on yourself and seeing how and what you can do to get to where they are.
BE GRATEFUL. Always. There are people out who haven’t made it to see 25. There are people out there who haven’t accomplished as much as I have at 25. There are a lot of people who can’t do half the things I can do at 25. I’m not where I want to be, but I am forever grateful for where I am.
Think for myself. WOW, this was definitely a big one. I think growing up, my mom would always do the talking for me. I remember we lived in WV and we were in the car with a neighbor and she asked me a question, however my mom immediately answered the question before I could even process the question and formulate an answer and I remember the neighbor saying, “I asked Jasmine the question.” But I’ve been on my own for a while now, so thinking for myself has been something I’ve had to do, although I do still call me mom for advice, I still have to formulate my own thoughts and opinions on things to make the best decision for myself.
Who I was at 20, 22 and even at 24 doesn’t define who I will be at 25. Man, I’ve done some crazy shit that I KNEW for a fact was wrong, but I still did them because I was being petty or because I just felt like, however those things do NOT and will NOT define the person I’ve become.
Love what you do for a living. Okay, so I’ve learned while being in Corporate America that you might hate your job, but I’ve also learned that, that job could be setting you up with the experience for your next job. My first job in Corporate was an Admissions Representative (code for Sales) at a technical school. However, that job title and some of my responsibilities opened doors for me in HR.
SAVE MONEY. OMG, y’all please, PLEASE save money. That money you have in your savings can help you out in times of emergencies, like for instance when your checking account goes into the negatives or gets as low as .47, but at least you’ll have that money in your savings to help you out a little until that next paycheck comes in. Or having a savings period is very helpful for later on in life when you want to do something major like buy a house.
Make connections. This is very important, regardless of what industry you’re in. You never know whose watching you or who can help you get to the next step that yo’re trying to get too.
Follow your dreams. One of my biggest fears is that I’m not living the life God has planned for me to live. I currently work in Corporate America, but I’m not sure if that’s the route I’m supposed to be going. I went to school for fashion and the longer I’m in Corporate America, the more I think if I should go with my first career choice
It’s not always about look. When it comes to a significant other or hell if yourself, it’s not about looks. Looks won’t get you that job, that boyfriend, that healthy life, that.. whatever you’re looking for it’s more than looks. Do you have a personality? Do you have the skill set? What can you offer and put on the table?
Learn something new everyday. When you’re not learning, I feel like you’re being complacent with your current knowledge. There’s nothing wrong with being a continuous learner and picking up a new skill or learning about something new everyday.
Believe in yourself. Believe in yourself girl or no one else will, but no seriously if you’re constantly doubting yourself, there’s only so much that people around you can try to believe in you before they start doubting you too.
BE KIND. No matter what, be kind. Be kind to that stranger, be kind to that CEO and that janitor, be kind to your mom, be kind to your dad, be kind to your siblings, your friends, your family, everyone! It’s better to be kind than to be the Grinch.
The best is yet to come. If you don’t feel like you’re where you are or need to be, remember the best is yet to come. Keep working and striving, it’ll come soon darling.