What does your personality type say about you?
Personality Type – Advocate (INFJ)
One day I was bored as work and I decided to do a personality test. I answered as honestly as I possibly could and the results were pretty accurate. It was actually scary at how accurate the results were. They gave answers to my strengths, weaknesses, romantic relationships, friendships, career path, etc. Everything that I put in bold, are statements that I wholeheartedly agree with, when it comes to myself
Mind – introverted
Energy – intuitive
Nature – feeling
Tactics – Judging
Identity – assertive
Creative, insightful, inspiring and convincing, decisive, determining and passionate, altruistic
Sensitive, extremely private, perfectionistic, always need to have a cause, can burn out easily
“Advocates tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.”
Advocates, though soft spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – Advocates will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance.
It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extroverted types, but they would all do well to remember that Advocates need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. Advocates take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.
Advocates take the process of finding a partner seriously. Advocates are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early dating stages.
“One of the things Advocates find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.”
Advocates will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. Advocates aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. When it comes to intimacy, Advocates look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the Advocate personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy.
There is a running theme with Advocates, and that is a yearning for authenticity and sincerity – in their activities, their romantic relationships, and their friendships. People with the Advocate personality type are unlikely to go for friendships of circumstance, like workplace social circles or chatting up their local baristas, where the only thing they really have in common is a day-to-day familiarity. Rather, Advocates seek out people who share their passions, interests, and ideologies.
As parents Advocates, much as in their friendships, will tend to look at their relationships with their children as opportunities to learn and grow with someone they care about, while working to achieve a distinctly separate but important goal – raising someone to be an independent, responsible and principled adult.
Advocates are likely to find that most corporate career paths are not designed for them, but for those focused on status and material gain. Many Advocates struggle to begin a career early on because they see then wildly different paths forward, each with its own intrinsic rewards, alluring but also heartbreaking, because each means abandoning so much else.
Advocates need to find meaning in their work, to know that they are helping and connecting with people. Roles as counselors, psychologists, doctors, life coaches and spiritual guides are all attractive options. – (I guess this is why I want to be a career counselor and/or life coach for college students, lol)
Advocates crave creativity too, the ability to use their insight to connect events and situations, effecting real change in others’ lives personally.
Advocates often pursue expressive careers such as writing, elegant communicators that they are, and author many popular blogs, stories, and screenplays. Music, photography, design and art are viable options too, and they all focus on deeper themes of personal growth, morality, and spirituality.
Advocates are clever, and can function in any field, but to be truly happy, they need to be able to exercise their insightfulness and independence, learn and grow alongside the people they are helping, and contribute to the well-being of humanity on a personal level.
Advocates not only needs to be able to express their creativity and insight, but they need to know that what they are doing has meaning, helps people, leads to personal growth and, all the while, is in line with their values, principles and beliefs. Oftentimes the best way for Advocates to achieve this is to not have to answer to others’ rules at all – to be their own boss, neither above nor below anyone else, just directly interacting with the people and ideas that are important to them.
You can take this personality test here.
The main reason I took this test is because not only did I want to see what someone could tell me about myself after answering a couple of questions, but also because I stumbled across this link that mentioned what type of significant other we go for based upon our Myers Brigg personality type. For me, INFJ, I listed below and it was also pretty and sadly accurate.
Who you usually go for: No one, because everyone is going to hurt you. Even the ones you’re only mildly attached too, especially the ones you really, really like. Once in a blue moon, you’ll meet someone who seems to have the potential to never screw you over. And you’ll put them on a pedestal until, eventually, they’ll let you down too.
Who you should go for: The best friend. The one who has proven their trustworthiness by being there for you through everything. The one who will let you down unintentionally, every now and again, but stays by your side to stitch up the wounds. Someone who will finally make you believe in the whole “everyone is going to hurt you, you just have to find the ones worth suffering for” bullshit that you were struggling to accept before.
If you don’t already know your personality type, you can use the link that I listed above to find out and after find out, you can go to this link here to find out what type of significant other you typically go for and who you should go for.