How many times does it take for you to stay over a guys place and he doesn’t try anything, for you to look at him weird?
I saw this question a while back on Instagram and thought it’d be a good topic for Discussion Monday. There are so man different ways to answer this question. I actually ended up asking a couple of people this question and we all had relatively the same answers.
The true answer to this question, depends on the level of the relationship, the guy you’re talking too, and his personality and the setting that you guys are in.
Out of four of us that was included in this conversation, 3 of us said that by the third time we’re starting to look at the guy weird and one of us said by the 5th time we’re starting to look at the guy weird.
We also came up with three possible reasons why he hasn’t tried you yet:
- He’s being respectful.
There are a lot of guys who will try you the first time you stay over or some guys who will try you the second or maybe the third time you stay over just to give you some time to get comfortable with him and his place, but then there are those guys who just will not try you at all no matter how many times you go over. Maybe it’s because he respects you and wants to wait it out until you guys are in a relationship or at that point in your situationship where you can take it to that next level.
When it comes to respect, it depends on how much you thow at the guy. He’s probably gonna try you regardless, but if a girl makes it clear that’s not what she wants, it would take him a while to try again, if he really respects her.
2. He’s gay
We all unanimously came to a number if he doesn’t try you by the third time y’all hang out.
The first 3 times would seem okay, but more than that I’d be asking if he was gay
This guy I was talking too, stayed at my house like three times and slept on the couch and after that last time he slept in my bed and didn’t try me but I looked at him weird because I was like how you stay at a female house and not try her, not even on a sexual level, but try me.
Depending on the guy, because after a while I’m like you gay MFer.
3. He’s nervous
Or giving him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he’s nervous. He doesn’t know what to do when it comes to sex because he’s a virgin or just not that experienced when it comes to sex.
Needless to say, there could be a few reasons why a man hasn’t tried you, but men should know that after the third time we stay together and/or just hang out and you don’t try us, we’re going to begin thinking something is wrong with you.