The other day, I was on Instagram and I was reading this guys post about how he was at the laundry mat and this lady left her wallet there. He went after her to try to give it to her, but instead she was all, “I have a man, leave me alone.” He called after her again, but this time instead of saying something back to him, she just hopped in her car and drove off. About 10 minutes later, she came back looking for her wallet. Once more, he tried to give it to her, and well of course, she went off again saying, “I have a man get the *bleep* out my face.” He finally just handed the lady her wallet and walked away. Once she realized why he was trying to talk to her, she tried to apologize, but by then he didn’t want to hear anything she had to say and told her to save her apology.
As women, why do we always automatically assume that just because a guy is trying to have a conversation with us, that he is trying to pursue us? I mean I myself have done it before, especially when I’m by myself and a man approaches me. I remember I was at the Opry Mall, and a guy came up to me and asked how old I was. I immediately thought it was trying to get at me, and I replied, “If you have to ask, then that means I’m too young for you.” And he replied, “Umm, I just wanted to know how you were because there’s still party going on tonight and I wanted to invite you but you have to be a certain age,” as he handed me a flyer. Talk about embarrassing, lol.
It’s crazy, because the guy could genuinely just want to have a conversation with you. He could be approaching you because he liked your style and thought it was similar to his girlfriend or wife and wanted your advice on what to get his significant other. I don’t know if it’s because we think so highly of ourselves or if we are just quite clueless when it comes to guys and their approach. We tend to mistake a friendly conversation for a romantic interest. If I had a dollar for every time, a friend of mine has said, “He wants me, I know it.” just because he glanced at her or had a conversation with her, I would probably be a millionaire by now. We also tend to call a guy “thirsty” just because he is trying to have a friendly conversation when most times that’s not even the case.
I have challenged myself to not assume that all guys are trying to talk to me when they approach me. I always go along with the flow of the conversation, because typically, they don’t right off the bat come out and say anything about trying to “holler” at you. It’s a casual conversation to see if you’re a cool chick and then it’s followed by a can I have your number or are you single.
BUT I said all of this just to say, don’t get me wrong, I would say about a good 60% of the time, that’s generally what a guy is doing when they are approaching you. Trying to “holler.” You just have to just like I said go with the flow and not assume that, that is what they are doing, unless you don’t care and want to be rude like the lady I mentioned beforehand and possibly lose out on $800 (which is the amount of cash she had in her wallet that, that young man could have taken).