8 Things to Do in the Morning to Have a More Productive Day

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1. Get Up Early When you get up earlier than normal, about 2 hours earlier, you’ll feel more refreshed.  Not only will you feel more refreshed, but you can get a lot more done.  Cook that breakfast that you’ve never had time to cook before work, put a load of clothes in the washer, read that book you never have time to read or do some homework.

2.  Work Out. If you’re anything like me, waking up early to work out sounds sooooooo sad, lol.  I prefer working out in the evenings after work, however I have worked out before work before and you have SO much free time after you’re done for the day.  You can finish that load of clothes you put in the washer that morning from getting up early, you can cook dinner, do homework, scratch some things off of your to-do list, etc.

3. Read the News. I’ll admit, this is something that I am extremely bad at. I usually use Twitter as my source for News, but I should probably download a News app (I don’t have cable to actually watch the news).  It’s very important to know what’s going on in the world, as it almost always directly affects you and it’s also good to be able to keep up and have an opinion when the topic of conversation is brought up with co-workers, friends or even strangers.

4. Meditate. A great way to refocus, destress, and have a clear mind to begin and conquer the day.

5. Eat Breakfast. I don’t know about you guys but when I don’t eat breakfast in the morning, I’m always ready to crash by like 12pm.  However, if you don’t have the time to cook breakfast because you don’t want to wake up 2 hours early, you can always meal prep breakfast.  Meal prep breakfast? Strange right? HAHA, I found a meal prep breakfast online once and I thought it was a pretty good meal: potatoes, scrambled eggs, tomatoes and shredded cheese! However, I wouldn’t meal prep my breakfast for the week, maybe two days at a time.

6. Make Your Bed. Duh, right? I don’t make my bed everyday, but when I do it’s like something I’ve accomplished off of my to-do list.  It also reassures me to not get back into the bed and that I must begin my day, lol.

7. Don’t Check Social Media/E-mail.  First thing you do when you wake up is check IG and Twitter. You start off on a person you actually know page and then BAM, two hours later you’re deep onto someone you have never met and probably will never meet pages.  Same with e-mail.  You check your e-mail and you get frustrated by something or intrigued by an e-mail and now you’re completely off track.  Avoid checking your phone altogether so that you can get thing done.

8. Do something that’s on your vision board. You’re trying to get into graduate school? Study some pages from the GRE/GMAT book or write that personal statement.  Your goal is read so many books in the new year? Read a chapter or two from your current book.  Your goal is to lose weight? Work-out.  Your goal is to spend more time with family and friends? Plan a breakfast date in the morning with them.

Would You Rather?

Another blog post brought to you by an episode of The Friend Zone!

Would you rather see 10 minutes into your future or 10 minutes into someone else’s? I think I would rather see 10 minutes into my future.  That way I can always be 10 steps ahead of everyone else.  Also, I’d like to see into my future, so that if I’m making a dumb mistake, I can stop myself from making it or if I know something important is coming up, I’ll know how to better prep myself for that event.

Would you rather go to jail for 4 years for something you didn’t do or get away with something horrible that you did do but always live in fear of getting caught? I would much rather go to jail for 4 years I something I didn’t do, because after the four years, I’ll get the shit done and over year, but if I were to do something horrible, get away with, I would have to basically ALWAYS live in fear, like always and who wants to have that bad conscious on them at all times?

Would you rather have hands that kept growing as you got older or feet that kept growing as you got older? Hmm…this is a hard one.  I don’t know, LOL.  I think I would want feet that kept growing as I got older.  As long as they grew half a cm or something lol.

Would you rather accidentally be responsible for the death of a child or accidentally be responsible for the death of 3 adults? Man, this was a tough one and I honestly don’t know how to answer this one. I would NEVER want to be responsible for the accidentally death of anyone, but if I had to choose, I would rather be responsible for the death of 3 adults.  Those adults have lived life, give the child a chance to live some.

Would you rather live in a virtual reality where all your wishes are granted or the real world where all your wishes are granted? I prefer to be in the real world.  I think in a virtual reality, you would get so lost and caught in the fake, but in the real world, you’re still facing real life and reality.

Would you rather never be able to use a touch screen or never be able to use keyboard/mouse? Never be able to use a keyboard/mouse.  Every TV Show and/or movie I’ve seen that’s been set in the future have all been involved with touch screen and I think that’s something we’re moving towards anyway.

Would you rather go back to age 5 with everything you know now or know now everything your future self will learn? Personally, I would rather go back to age 5 with everything I know now.  A lot of things could be changed, a lot of people could be saved and a lot of different decisions would be made.

Would you rather have unlimited international first class flight tickets or never have to pay for food at any restaurants? LMAO, I barely travel now and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE food, so my guy I would have to choose to never have to pay for food at any restaurants.

 

Top 10 Songs of the Week

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  1. Wale – Negotiations
  2. Diamonique Jackson – Give Me A Sign
  3. Star Cast – Believe (Noah and Take 3 Version)
  4. Childish Gambino – This is America
  5. OT Genasis – Everybody Mad (Beychella Mix)
  6. Saweetie – BANS
  7. Kehlani – Did I
  8. Beyonce – Upgrade U Live
  9. SOB X RBE – Paramedic!
  10. Janelle Monae – Pynk

I’m Okay with Not Getting Married

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Back in February, I went home for my parents 50th birthday celebration.  While we were at the venue setting up, my father and I were talking about his eating habits and health.  He went on a rant about how he’s trying to overall live a healthier life as he wants to see his grandkids grow up and see me get married. It didn’t dawn on me until a couple of days later that my father is looking forward to seeing me get married, however I have come to the realization that I may not want to get married and I am okay with that.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against getting married and if I fall in love with a man who wants to eventually marry me, I’m open to it, but what I am saying is that, if it doesn’t happen, I won’t stress out about it, I won’t complain and be one of those women who’s always nagging about never getting married, but instead I’ll continue to live a long healthy life.  I think too often women get caught up in this life of, I’m supposed to go to college, graduate, get a job, find a man, get married and have kids and I don’t believe that.  I believe that I am supposed to live and to live my best fucking life and whatever I encounter on that journey, whether it’s a bomb ass job, a man or a child then good.

My parents got married at 22.  Can you guys believe it? Twenty-2.  At 22, I had just gotten out of one situationship and was heading into another situationship.  At 22, I was stressing because I had just found out I was graduating an entire semester earlier than planned.  At 22, I was trying what the fuck I was about to do with my life after May 14th at 9:30am and Gary Ransdell, WKU previous President called my name to receive my paper diploma.  At 22, I was trying to figure out what internship was I going to get after I did walk because I had one more class left before I could officially be a college graduate.  At 22, I was not thinking about a fucking marriage.  My parents had me at 25.  I recently turned 25 last month and at 25, I can’t financially support myself, so I definitely couldn’t financially support another life.  At 25, I’m still lost as fuck as to what I want to do in life.  At 25, I’m slightly lost, stressed and depressed.

I haven’t been in a relationship that held a quote, unquote title of boyfriend and girlfriend since 2012.  I haven’t been in a successful yet unnecessarily long situationship since 2014.  It’s 2018.  I haven’t been in love or felt wanted by a man in four years and I’ve learned a lot about myself.  To include the fact that I am okay with not getting married.  I’m also okay with not having kids.  However, if and when I meet a man that I’m in love with and we decide to get married, than baby I’m all for it! And if he wants to have kids, of course I am going to give that man some kids.  But I won’t cry or be hurt if I don’t either or.  When I was younger, I had a plan of what my life was “supposed” to look like.  Married by 23, first kid by 25 and a second by 28.  So much for that plan. I think my focus right now is mainly on getting myself together financially, physically, mentally and most importantly, spiritually.  Once I get all of that in order, thinking about marriage and kids will come into play.

xoxo

Jas ❤

 

Beauty Product of the Week

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You guys know I’m a sucker for oils.  I have a TON of oils that I’ve bought recently.  I remember listening to the Friend Zone and Fran talked about how Peppermint Oil could help you poop when you’re on the toilet.  Drop a couple of drops in the toilet and watch the poop flow out and babyyyyyyy, it works. However, I recently bought something else from Provence Beauty.  Hydrating Body Oil | Amaranth Scent.  I absolutely love it, it’s amazing and it makes me feel so much better at night, which is when I mainly use.  I use all over my body, but mainly on my face. I looked up Provence Beauty and they don’t have a website, but their products are on a website known as worldmarket.com, however I got mine from TJ Maxx as usual for only $5.99!

When I was 22 I dated a man 15 years older than me

Yes, you read the title of this article correctly.  When I was 22, I dated a man that was 37.  Here’s how we met.  After graduating college, I move back home to Memphis.  I had two part-time jobs at the time, one at the University of Memphis Bookstore and the other at JCPenney’s.  He too, had two jobs.  A full-time job and a part-time job at JCPenney’s.  I worked in the shoe department and he worked in the children’s department which was right by each other.  Now when I first saw this man, I thought he was a cool 27 (that’s that black don’t crack, baby).  But to try to make a long story short, we started “talking” two months after I had started.  One night after work, it was raining and I let him walk with me under my umbrella to our cars and as a thank you, he bought me a $25 (yes, my guy spent a cool $25 on me without even knowing me) Starbucks gift card.  Maybe a week later, we went on a lunch date.  After our date and as we were on our way back to work, I asked him how old he was and he told me to guess.  I guessed, “Late 20’s or early 30’s.” and that’s when he hit with the, “No, I’m 37.” As you can imagine, I was shooketh, but I was interested.

There’s nothing I regret about dating him and I actually learned a couple of things from dating him.

It’s better to start off as friends. One thing he kept saying to me was, “We’re friends right.” I remember being so offended by the fact that he called us friends and not, I’m not sure what the proper term would have been because we weren’t official.  But by him calling me his “friend,” I realized in order to be successful in a relationship, you must first start off as friends.  You get to know each other better

I liked going on dates. Before him, I don’t think I’d really been out on a date.  Most of the guys I entertained, we’d only see the four walls of my bedroom or theirs or each other’s living room.  Rarely did we do something fun like dinner, movies, or something in the local area.  However with this guy, we went on multiple dates.  The first two dates were a little awk (he would sit next to me as opposed to on the opposite side of me in which I later realized I liked) but after that I started to open up to him a lot and I enjoyed sitting down, talking to him and getting to know and vice versa.

Communication is Key.  I definitely learned how to communicate and to communicate effectively. I was never and still am not a big phone talker, however he would call me EVERY night to talk on the phone.  Along with communication, I learned how to reach out to him via phone first.  Granted I didn’t do it a lot, I had definitely stepped out my comfort zone and did.  Whenever we had a problem or issue, he would want to talk about it to resolve.  We had a couple yelling matches and a couple of sit downs in the car on different issues we had.

Ask questions.  One of our date nights, that went so well, ended badly.  We were at a Mexican restaurant and I shit y’all not, his ex-wife just so happened to be at the same restaurant at the same time on the same night.  WILD right? Come to find out, he had an ex-wife who he’d been with for a long time and married to for a long time.  He had two kids, one with the ex-wife and well, one not with the ex-wife, hence the divorce.  Now, I knew beforehand that he had one son and that was only because I had heard him talking to a customer before we even started talking about his son.  He basically told me, that he never told me he had kids because I never asked…

It was difficult dating an older man while living with my parents. Pretty much sums this up.  There would be time where he’d want me to stay the night with him, but I was about 99.9% positive that wouldn’t have be cool with my father.  I remember, I had to tell my parents I was doing one thing when I was really hanging out with him at 1 in the morning (sorry Dad/Mom if you’re reading this).  But it was very frustrating for him, because that night he actually wanted me to stay with him, especially since it was his birthday and he felt like I was too grown to be lying to my parents.

He was very confident in himself.  It wasn’t the arrogant, cocky type of confident, but the I’ve been here, done that and I know what I’m doing, sexy type of confident.  He knew I was attracted to him and he knew what to do to make me want him more than what I already did so effortless.

Jealousy didn’t exist.  When I tell y’all this man never got jealous, he never got jealous.  It was like he knew I was his (even though not officially) and that he was not worried about any other man.  I remember we were out eating and another guy kept staring at me, but he didn’t make a big deal about it.  Not an insecure bone in his body.

Obviously, he and I did not last, which ultimately brings me to my last point.  Ghosting exist no matter what age you are.  He basically ghosted me for about a month before calling me and trying to have a “conversation” about where our relationship was going.  We talked for about 10 minutes and he hung up on me.  Called me back about 30 minutes, I missed it and when I called back he didn’t answer.  I hadn’t heard from him again until 4 months later.  Typical fuck guy shit.  I don’t regret talking and pursuing him.  I learned a lot about older men.  Would I ever date someone that much older than me again? Possibly, I mean if Chadwick Boseman ever gave me a chance…you better your ass I would, but for now I think I’ll stick to someone who is 10 years or less older than myself.

Beauty Product of the Week

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The other day I went to TJ Maxx and as always, I bought some things that I definitely did not need…at all.  I went into the beauty section and discovered this Magnesium Oil Spray by Provence Beauty.  According to the bottle it improves sleep, aids with muscle recovery, boosts magnesium levels and relieves joint pain.  I mainly bought it because I have a lot of joint/muscle pain due to over working out.  I sprayed it on my leg in the area of the pain and my leg felt good for a little bit but it began to hurt again later.  I sprayed it on my leg again the next morning after walking out in hopes that maybe it would ease some pain on my leg throughout the day, however my leg was still hurting.  I am going to go with I need to use it twice a day (as recommended) for a while because I can see if it actually works or not.