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A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a blog post about ghosting here.  But today, I want to talk about ghosting a friend. Being ghosted as a friend can be just as hurtful, if not more, than  being ghosted romantically. How not all friendships are meant to last forever and many people cut off or ghost friends for several different reasons.  For example, you let a friend stay with you and they took advantage of that, they cheated with your partner, they bashed you to other people, the friendship is toxic, they stole something of value to you, you can’t trust them, etc.  Whatever the reason may be, you had one for ghosting them.

I recently ghosted a “best” friend and I use the term loosely, as I no longer considered her my best friend when I stopped being friends with her.  We weren’t that close anymore, we were two different people, we were in two different places in life and that’s why I felt like our friendship had run its course.  I felt like I outgrew her.  I had moved on, accomplished all of these things, meanwhile she was stuck.  No matter how much she talked about growing as a person, she never made any moves to move towards progression.  It was almost as if she would take a step forward and twenty steps backwards.

I’ll admit, it would have been more “ethical” of me to let her know upfront what was up, but I just did not feel like I owed her any explanation. I was going through my own things and really felt the need to have positive energy and people around me as I would be more empowered and inspired to keep going after my goals.

Some friends may not be the same type of friend I need or want based on where I am in my life. We grow, we change and we evolve.  If you are still stuck in the past, you’re not growing, changing or evolving then our friendship needs to be released.

The older you get, the more your mindset and interest change and some people just can’t handle that change. You can influence people to change, but we can’t force them to change.

Ghosting a Friend

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a blog post about ghosting here.  But today, I want to talk about ghosting a friend. Being ghosted as a friend can be just as hurtful, if not more, than  being ghosted romantically. How not all friendships are meant to last forever and many people cut off or ghost friends for several different reasons.  For example, you let a friend stay with you and they took advantage of that, they cheated with your partner, they bashed you to other people, the friendship is toxic, they stole something of value to you, you can’t…

How to Get More Out of an Underwhelming Job

If you’re anything like me, you like to be busy at work. I don’t like going to work and feeling like my knowledge or skill set isn’t being utilized.  I had a job where I would clock in at 7am and be done with my work for the day by 9:30am. I would have absolutely nothing to do for the rest of the work day. I mean literally, I was doing everything from catching up on TV Shows, finding new TV Shows and/or Movies to watch, listening to Podcast, watching YouTube videos to surfing the internet. I wanted to fill…

Top 10 Songs of the Week

Lord Narf, Meltycanon – Rent Ryan Destiny – The Same Summer Walker – Session 32 Kali Uchis – Dead to Me Lil Baby, Gunna, Drake – Never Recover Pardison Fontaine, Cardi B – Backin’ It Up Wale, J. Cole – My Boy Anna Lou – Tried Up Kiana Lede – Get in the Way Siya – Busta Mood

Staycation

A staycation is when an individual or family stays homes instead of traveling to participate in leisure activities.  But exactly how do you enjoy a staycation from the comfort of your homes? Take a break from the kitchen. Instead of cooking dinner like you normally would, have dinner delivered every night from your favorite restaurants.  Use apps such as GrubHub or UberEats to get delivery from restaurants who don’t already have delivery services! Play a vacation playlist. To get yourself in the mood for a vacation, have a vacation playlist ready and play it the entire time of your staycation. Listen to…

5 Smartphone Apps You Should Download Today

Twine is an app for saving and investing.  You need to save/invest for a home, wedding, upcoming vacation? Download Twine to help you out. Shine sends you a daily test to help you thrive.  I know we’ve all have been having a bad day and someone post something, tells you something or sends you something that would brighten your day, Shine does exactly that! Frotorial is a fun app, specifically for women of color to share hair routines progress and favorite hair products with others. You can search natural hair salons in your area and if you are a natural hairstylist, you can…

Let’s Make ‘Em Whistle Y’all

Y’all remember back in 2005, we were talking about how we wanted one of them country boys? Or how we were still in love with our fake boo? What about in 2007, when he was giving you rush everytime that he came around? Tyra Bolling or simple known as Tyra B is the artist behind…

4 Reasons Why It’s Important to Stop Pitting Women Against Each Other

  The media is notorious for pitting women against each other and I started seeing it more and more on the blogs, especially on Instagram in the comment section. I’ve learned that the media often times make up feuds to stir up and bring more attention their site. One media site often times put two pictures of women who wore the same outfit side by side and ask the question, “Who Wore It Better?” Elle Woods once said, “We girls need to stick together. We can’t try to look good by making each other look bad.” Elle never made other…

Bring on the Weekend: 3 Cocktail Recipes We Love

Classic Bloody Mary 1 lemon wedge 1 lime wedge 2 oz vodka 4 oz tomato juice 2 dashes tabasco sauce 2 tsp prepared horseradish 2 dashes Worcestershire sauce 1 pinch celery salt 1 pinch ground black pepper 1 pinch smoked paprika Brazilian Cocktail 2 oz van gogh acai – blueberry vodka 2 oz lemonade Herradura Tequila Mojito 4 mint leaves 2 oz herradura blanco tequila 1 oz herradura blue agave nectar 1 oz lime juice 2 oz club soda